Beauty and the Beast

Let's think for a while...shall we?? Ever notice in fairy tales that the beautiful woman falls in love with the "beast"? Ever notice that there isn't a fairy tale where there is a prince and he falls in love with the "old, fat, withered step-mother"??

I got to thinking...maybe it's because women are more "accepting" than men are. Women just want a nice man...period. He can be purple with 4 ears but if he is nice to her, then *bam*, she is his. But, men on the other hand, are not as accepting of people's flaws. Now, I am not saying ALL men - just the majority of them. That fine minority of men that have evolved to know that women of all shapes and sizes are lovable - that's it's the woman's heart and character is what you fall in love with - not her size....that is the kind of man that I am looking for.

I have had plenty of arguments with men about them wanting a "skinny petite woman"....this is after they have found out that I am "fluffy". Oh, they liked talking to me when they thought I was skinny...but once they found out I am "fluffy" then things got bitter. My daughter says I antagonize them :) I just say they started it.

Some remark about health...oh, that it's not healthy to be overweight and that I really should do something about it. Well, we are all going to die..something is going to get us...ever notice that even the skinny people die??? So, that health argument doesn't hold a candle to me.

Oh, one man even had the audacity to claim he was a Christian but yet he wanted a skinny, petite woman. I asked him why, since he blantately stated that he was a Christian, he was being so judgmental. He claimed that being overweight was like witchcraft - it was evil. Just remember, this was coming from a man that stated he was 5'6" and weighed 185. Of course, he claims that he is not overweight, that his is all muscle. Hmmmm, I wonder if I could start telling people that I am "muscular"...nah, I still like "fluffy". Oh, and then he proceeds to put in a photo of himself from the 70's, claiming that he will send an updated photo to the women that he approves of. Gee, how lucky for them. Thank God, I wasn't approved of. He blocked me when I told him that yes, I was a Christian and that God made me fluffy to keep mean, judgmental men away from me. :)

One argument I get from men is "oh sure, women won't date ugly men or midgets or one-legged men". Well, excuse me, but I did. No, never dated a midget - but if one came around and he was nice and he asked me out, I would go. I have dated "ugly" and a one-legged man. Like I said, I go for the heart (wait a minute, that sounds like I am killing them - but you know what I meant)...I go for the man's insides - if he is nice, then he gets to stay around.

One man that didn't get to stay around was overweight and was recovering from just suffering a stroke. He walked with a limp and part of his body was still kind of paralyzed from the stroke. We talked on the computer and decided to meet. He told me, "oh, you are going to be just like the other women I have met - you will take one look at me walking funny and say 'oh, we will just be friends' ". Well, we met and I didn't say that to him. I accepted him for what he was. Why did I get rid of him, you wonder?? Because he had the nerve to tell me, "you know Diane, being overweight is life-threatening". Hmmm,,,this came from an overweight man who had had a stroke!! Maybe he didn't want to be around when I have my stroke...heck if I know..but anyways, he was gone.

But, on a good note, not all men dump me because I am overweight. One man dumped me because he said I "require too much attention and affection". This bothered me for a while until a wise man told me that the man said that because he couldn't give it to me.

Like I have said before, if God wants me to have a man - He will send me one. I am not going out looking for him - well, I will look on the computer but that is probably just to "antagonize". Hence, the reason for this blog. I sure wish a man would write in and complain so the whole world can see how I antagonize. :)

But, in the mean time, I have accumulated some quotes on appearances for men to consider.

"God does not judge according to your bodies and appearances but He scans your hearts and looks into your deeds."
Mohammed

"Are we changing the idea of what beauty is? Let's hope so. I'm not the typical Hollywood beauty. Let's hope we're looking at the insides of people a little more."
Ann Heche

"appearances are often deceiving."
Aesop quotes

"For the great majority of mankind are satisfied with appearance, as though they were realities and are often more influenced by the things that seem than by those that are."
Niccolo Machiavelli

"Men in general judge more from appearances than from reality. All men have eyes, but few have the gift of penetration."
Niccolo Machiavelli

"Why not be oneself? That is the whole secret of a successful appearance. If one is a greyhound, why try to look like a Pekingese?"
Dame Edith Sitwell

"You don't love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear."

"I have yet to meet a man as fond of high moral conduct as he is of outward appearances."
Confucius