Craigslist ads for men looking for women

Update: Remember I love going to craigslist and looking at the ads for pets, men, and furniture. One of these days, I am going to give you a list of some of the stupid ad titles that are out there. But, in this blog, I want to tell you about my latest "squabble" with a man. I usually browse the ads looking for the most stupid one - but, to be fair, if it's a good ad, I will send am email to the person telling them that they did write a good one.

Well, the other day, I was cruising the ads and I came across this ad:
Question for the ladies about BBW's???? - 40
What is BBW? Would it be; Big Busty WOmen (large breasts), or Big Beautiful Women, (politely said overweight), or am I missing it altogether?
What if she had large breasts and a thin waist would she then be called voluptuous?
And if it is Big and Beautiful, then how big is big?
And is Obesity truly beautiful or should someone be helping? It is not a joking matter.
These terms are so general, I personally like women in the middle, so what would you call that? A few extra pounds with some breasts...LOL
It is really confusing. I like all women, we are all unique individually. I would not like to categorize someone that is hurtful. I would like to meet up with someone who is in the middle of all that. But what it truly boils down to is the person, I've met many an attractive women without a personality and many a larger girl with enough to share.
I guess I will remain single guy "swimming in the fish bowl" (my age give-away), and the age thing is another stereo-type in the Single Shopping Mall of Vanity.
Myself, I am shopping for the person.
I really don't fit it do I?

Ok, people, that was his ad. In case you don't know - that 40 in the title means (or supposed to mean) that he is 40 years old.
Well, like the fool that I am, I fell in the trap and I just had to respond. Maybe to help clarify him on what a BBW is?? Maybe to point out his slip-ups?? Anyways, I responded. And I am happy to share our email exchange. Mine will be in normal print and his will be in the bold print. No names - to protect the guilty. :) Comments will come after the conversation. :)

BBW = Big Beautiful Women. I guess you will never "fit in" until you decide it's whats on the inside that counts and not the outside.

Hey there Dr. Diane. You obviously didn't read my posting. I do In Fact Look for the person. Perhaps the real truth is that stereo-typing goes with those who read what they want and not what is written. Yes, I do take offense. You seem to be the judge and not the "rule" like your blog.

Oh, but I did read your posting and the sentence that did you in was the one where you were talking about personality and some large women have lots of personality...well, then what was wrong with them?

Wrong...try a direct cut and paste quote: "I've met many an attractive women without a personality and many a larger girl with enough to share." I was not talking about you in all probability doesn't like the opposite sex, am I guessing correct? Again, you read what you wanted.

I must have hit a nerve and that is why you are on the defensive and putting me down. Ok, for the direct quote "I've met many an attractive women without a personality and many a larger girl with enough to share." ...so, what happened to the larger woman? How come you aren't still with her? Or were you ever with her?

No, not a nerve but you started by "downing" me with my "own" words. And it couldn't be further from the truth. I love "most" people no matter who or how they are. The larger girl you are talking about ??? Huh? I said that usually "the larger girl" has more personality, though not always the case, my essay (if you will) was for "the large girl", not one I lost, or used to have, I actually don't date BBW women, I lost 120 lbs and maintain a active healthy lifestyle, we have little in common. However I totally support anyone trying to lose weight, I have been there. I was born fat, I lived a fat life. I consider myself to still be fat. It's the world that tells me I'm not. Doc lets stop this and move our energies to the bedroom....Ok, just kidding, you see I have a sense of humor. PS: Our energies in the bedroom would probably be like fire and gasoline, NICE!

Ok, we will stop this...but you actually proved my point - you don't date BBW's. Why?? You said you don't have anything in common - have you ever dated a BBW?? Or do you just look at them and have a pre-conceived notion that they couldn't keep up with you?

I lift weights, ride bikes for twenty miles, and run on the tread mill 5 days a week. If you know of a BBW that could do that she would have to consume millions of calories to keep her BBW statues. I won !!!!! Lets get together and screw.

There you have it ladies and gentlemen. Our email conversation. It was over when I stated he was Mr. Perfect. I was being facetious, of course, but I guess he took it as the truth and went out and strutted his stuff to the world.

Commentary: Now why did he even put BBW in his ad if he doesn't date BBW's? Was he looking for a response from a BBW? Why did he put he say "I like all women", when in fact, he stated later that he doesn't date BBW's? Why did he say he was shopping for the person, when he then later stated he was not looking for a BBW?

Notice how I ignored how he stated that I must not like the opposite sex?? And, also notice how I ignored his kind and generous invitation to "take our energies to the bedroom" and to "screw"...how romantic.

Ladies, that is what is out there. Be careful. They state one thing but mean another. Or do they even know what they mean??? Or worse yet, do they even know what they want??? Or can or can't handle????