Update on one of the previous blogs

If you have been reading my blogs, you will see in one that I promised you an update on the guy that didn't like overweight women (and I was going to set him up with my skinny friend). Well, this is what happened. First, I had to go back and edit that post because I had put in his name and website (yep, here I had given him a compliment - telling women how nice he was and that he was single, and gave out his website - and what happens?? Well, here it comes)

In case you are wondering why there was so much time lapst in between the blogs was because as email buddies go, we stopped writing to each other. Remember, I wasn't good enough for him because I am overweight. Then one day, I was checking the craigslist and I came across another ad he had posted - claiming that he had spent Thanskgiving alone. I wrote to him and asked if that was him (can't use names - to protect the guilty). And he wrote back and said "yes, it was him". I asked him why he had spent Thanksgiving alone - he could have spent it with my family (yes, that is how gullible, stupid, kind-hearted I am - will invite a man to my family's Thanksgiving who doesn't like me). So, we get to talking about me setting him up with my friend - so, I decided to get busy. I knew she wasn't going to like this but hey, you never know...besides, death isn't that bad (just in case she did decide to kill me). So, I gave him her work email address. He writes to her. And I worry about being killed. She was absent. Now I had to worry another day. She was absent. I am spared for another weekend. Monday comes. I see her !! I meekly ask if she has read her email. She says, "Yes, and I am going to kill you." (see, I told you so) :) She is confused - why am I trying to set her up when I am single and he could ask me out. I explain that he doesn't like fat women. She makes a face. (See, she is smarter than I am - I guess she knows that if he can judge me, then he can judge her). She says NO THANK YOU and that is the end of that. Then he writes and says that apparently she is not interested because she never writes back. So, I told him what happened and then I send him a forwarded email that is titled "you think fat is ugly?" and it shows pictures of these super-skinny women - I mean where their bones are showing. (Speaking of which, I saved the email in case any of you want to see it). So, then the fight begins. Here is our email conversation. His will be in bold. Happy Reading. :)

You know Diane, I never said "fat is ugly". In fact, I love a gal with a little meat on her bones. What makes you think I only like skinny women is beyond me. I ONLY DON'T PREFER WOMEN WHOSE HEALTH IS IN DANGER!!! I've lived it and lost it...and I take offense to what you told _____ (my friend's name). I am not a shallow person and I wish you would get over that. But evidently you can't and look what kind of relationship advisory you turned out to be.
Good bye !

I hate to point this out - but you are a shallow person. You ARE looking for at a woman's outsides instead of her insides before you want to start a relationship. The last man I dated was a big man - he was 6'11" (yes, you read that right) and he probably weighed 500 lbs. He was a diabetic and had already lost one leg to the disease. We met through a dating service. We talked on the phone and I liked him, so we decided to meet. He was a manly man!! Where ever he went, he commanded the room. He did not let his disability slow him down one minute. In fact, the first day we met, we was wearing shorts. There he was in shorts, with his fake leg showing. Nothing bothered him. I really liked him. Oh, we would have our squabbles but he would come back to me. He spent Thanksgiving with my family one year. Then, that December he had to go to the dr. They put him in the hospital. His family called and wanted me there. So, I went to be with him. He died early the next morning. I was by his side. Is this going to keep me from dating a big man in the future? NO. Is this going to keep me from dating a diabetic man? NO. I won't date them if they aren't nice to me - but, I am not going to judge them on their weight nor their disease. Why did you take offense at what I told my friend? It was the truth. So, this is goodbye. I guess you learned never to trust a fat relationship coach if you don't like fat women. Also, I hope you have learned something else - but that will remain - but it will give you something to think about when you spend holidays alone.

So you have to have the last word huh? Well, Diane - take your male-bashing self and go espouse to all the hateful things that have ever happened to you in your life. And convert your pain into something that you, and only you, feel is constructive. Good luck in your life because it appears it is going to be a very very lonely one.

Just trying to make a point to you. You lost a love and now you want to put limits on your next love. I was just trying to tell you that not everyone does that. You ARE the one that will end up lonely. I am never lonely - you never see me posting an ad on craigslist. I would rather live alone than be lonely with another. And, how come men, when women point things out to them that hit home, they suddenly get defensive and say things like "she has issues with men" or "male bashing"??

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So, that was the end of my dating relationship coaching....well, of that one...I am sure there will be others in the future. :)